15 Reasons Why 50 Shades of Grey is Not a Love Story

“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear.” (1 John 4:18)

If you’ve been off on an interstellar vacation or stuck in a blizzard-induced blackout for the last month or so, you may have missed this, but the movie 50 Shades of Grey opens tomorrow. On Valentine’s Day. That means someone thinks it’s a love story men are supposed to take their beloved to.

A love story? Seriously? Let’s have a look, shall we?

Love heals, not harms.

Love defends, not destroys.

Love blesses, not beats.

Love divinizes, not dominates.*

Love dignifies, not degrades.

Love inspires, not inflicts.

Love prays, not preys.**

Love serves, not scars.

Love gives, not takes.

Love helps, not humiliates.

Love is patient, not predatory.

Love honors, not objectifies.

Love is selfless, not selfish.

Love is kind, not cruel.

Love enriches, not enslaves.

True love is a free, total, faithful, and fruitful gift to your beloved. It’s giving yourself to another, body and soul, lifting each other up, leading each other to holiness and eternal life.

Still think 50 Shades of Grey is a love story? Then ask yourself: is that the love story you’d want for your daughter? Your sister?


* “Fifty Shades of Grey and the Light of Truth,” Bill Donaghy
** “My Thoughts on 50 Shades of Grey,” @1Tim6_11Men